“Slave, sissy, kitten, worm, pet, Baby Boy, or Baby Girl … at the end of the day, they all mean the same thing. I will keep you safe because  You. Are. MINE. ”  - Say Please (Mistress Claudia)

Thanks to the shit show that has been 2020, we are living in unprecedented times.It’s hard to get away from the hard truths of our world with the prevalence of social media in our lives today. Many of us are struggling to make rent or pay bills. Some of us have lost health insurance, if we had it at all in the first place. Let’s face it folks - it’s terrifying out there.

Now, I can’t fix a global pandemic and economy crash with some bondage ropes and a whip… but for the time I have you under my collar - I can certainly make you think I did. 

Now, I have your attention, let me explain just how the BDSM lifestyle, or even the occasional forays into my world, can offer you some much needed peace during this trying time. 

The term BDSM, is actually an umbrella term for  3 forms of sexual exploration: Bondage and Discipline (BD), Domination or Dominance and Submission (DS) and Sadism and Masochism (SM). There is a little something for everyone under this beautiful leather umbrella and it covers so much more than just humiliation and pain. 

As a Mistress, one way I utilize Domination/Submission and Discipline behavior is by ordering my submissives to perform tasks for me. Tasks can be anything that I choose it to be. However, a good mistress always has an open conversation with their sub before any sort of power exchange occurs. In this conversation we discuss turn ons, boundaries, comfort levels and address any concerns. Then the games can truly begin. The nature of my task choices could be sexual, embarrassing or an opportunity for my sub/pet/slave to show their worship and devotion to their Mistress.  A good little pet always jumps at the chance to make their Mistress happy, and I am always sure to reward them when they do so with much praise (and sometimes even sexy pictures for exceptional servitude). However, if a Sub fails one of my tasks or forgets their manners, swift and harsh punishment is to follow and will not be forgotten.

“The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom.” - Joseph Bean

Do you know that science shows that a BDSM session can have the same effect on those involved as the runner's high that marathoners feel upon completion of an event? This is in large part thanks to the realization of the participant becoming ‘rope drunk’ or reaching ‘sub space’.

What is sub space?

“That very special place the submissive or masochist enters when he/she reaches a natural chemical high and/or change in mental and/or emotional balance of the brain chemistry, and state of mind. Best achieved when total trust is in place with his/her Dominant, and one totally immerses themselves in an intense BDSM scene. Note: The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point, thus it is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, this is known as, "aftercare".

In a world where you are drowning in the stress of making the right choice, at the right time for every major and minor thing in your life - it is such a profound relief to give up the reins of control to someone else from time to time. To allow yourself to let go and close down the decision making section of your mind as you fully give in to your trust of the mistress to guide you through each moment. Knowing that she will help you find the peace you so earnestly crave.

When your body is engaged in outside stimulus, such as impact play, such as spanking or restraint - it redirects blood flow to whatever is being stimulated. In layman's terms? It helps your brain go quiet so you can lose yourself in the experience. Much in the same way Yoga or meditation does. (Only my yoga involves a riding crop!)

The process isn’t just therapy for the submissive, but also for the Mistress. The amount of focus a Mistress puts towards guiding a sub through an erotic power exchange can allow a MIstress to relax her mind as well. This makes it phenomenally pleasurable for both  the wearer of the collar and the hand on the other end of the leash. 

Is it any wonder, that I love this world so much?

It’s all about a power exchange. I have used my role as Mistress to help subs learn positive outlooks and good hygiene habits, by demanding a shower and present every morning. It’s about trusting me enough to see what you need, and taking you there.

You will belong to me, and I will always keep you safe. I think that’s the best part about this world because it isn’t just about pain and place - its about letting go and realizing it’s safe to simply exist.

Who knew true freedom came at the end of a leash? 

So, my lovely little kinksters,  - if you want a break from reality ( and really in 2020 who doesn’t?) come explore my world and see how good it feels to finally give up control to your Mistress and like the name says - always remember to SAY PLEASE.