Fetish Exploration: FinDom
Everything it is.. and not
pigs gentlemen and ladies. It’s time for you to give me your fucking money learn about something about more than just money. So give me tributes pay attention, because although the lesson will be short, it will be informative.
FinDom has been all the craze for quite some time. But what is it? Financial Domination, FinDom for short. It’s commonly recognized by short phrases and slang such as “paypigs”, “cashcows”, “tributes”, and some version of “give me your fucking money you worthless little sub”. Before we go any further let me start of by saying that is NOT FinDom. Or at least, that’s not the best of FinDom. Out of all the worlds kinks, FinDom is most certainly anything an individual can make it. However, it’s not JUST degradation and humiliation most commonly associated with standard BDSM D/s relationships. Most FinSubs don’t appreciate degradation, actually. Findom is a psychological power and control fetish best described as “financial domination: a form of erotic humiliation in which one person gives money and control of their finances to another person”. The FinDom scene has been around for as long as time, literally. Men give women money and get off at the thought of the woman spending it as they please. Sounds easy, right? Not quite. FinDom relationships take a lot of trust, honesty, communication, and commitment. Boundaries are essential as well as making sure your kink play is SSC (Safe, Sane, Consentual) or RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). It’s not as easy as starting a Twitter or posting an add asking for “tributes” from “paypigs” (that’s a friendly term we call instadomming).
Tributes aren’t tips. Tips aren’t necessary because a service isn’t being provided. The kink IS the exchange of money and control, there is nothing expected in return. So, if you’re offering a good in exchange for a large amount of cash, look toward our friends the sugar babies and wave because that’s more their gig, which is a phenomenal gig in itself and extremely well respected. Tributes are paid without asking, without question, and without prompting. Myself? I won’t speak to a finsub without proper tribute.
FinDom is not for the faint of heart and it’s not a fetish you can just “jump in to”. If you’re a submissive woman, this isn’t your fetish. It’s a truly deep rooted pyschological kink that requires a lot of time, effort, and research. It’s not good for a quick buck because the true community is small. Have more questions? I’d be happy to answer questions and point you to resources. But really? There is no manual. You learn as you go and pick up on the code. Oh, and one last thing.. anybody can be a goddess. Not everyone can be a FinDomme💋
*Top photo credit goes to @exoticcancer on Twitter.