Women Should Uplift Each Other
I wanted to write about something that has been on my mind the past few weeks. Maybe not even necessarily for someone to relate, but really just to put this out there in the universe. While I’m still fairly new to the world of sex work and panty selling, I’ve encountered numerous scenarios in which the women on the site belittle, judge and insult each other; whether to their faces or behind their backs.
A couple days ago, one of my repeat buyers that I’ve grown very close with messaged me. He said something along this lines of, “The seller, ___, asked me why I buy from you. She said you’re fake, not special and post too much”. When I read that, my heart sorta dropped. How does this woman thinks she knows me? I have a short bio in my profile mentioning some of my likes and dislikes. I share openly that I’m a young single mother doing her best to raise a child in a not-ideal situation. I come from a family that has it’s problems. I could share more, but I don't want to bore anyone with the details. This is not to say that I’m special in anyway. If fact, I have very little self confidence, and I’m a very sensitive person. I take how others feel about me too personally and I struggle with very negative feelings about myself on a day-to-day basis.
All of this to say, why would you talk negatively about someone you don’t know? So what if they post more than you, or have repeat buyers you’ve never worked with? Us, as women and sellers, should be focused on lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. I am ALWAYS rooting for the sellers to do their best, to make the sale, and be successful. Again, not saying I’m some super positive and perfect, encouraging panty entrepreneur, but I’m a girl who was raised to be kind to everyone I encounter, even if they do/say something I don’t necessarily agree with. Does this make me fake? No. This is me rising above being petty and childish. This is me not making assumptions about anyone because you NEVER know what someone is dealing with in their personal life. What if the girl you make a comment about is trying to get out of an abusive relationship? What if she's losing a parent to cancer? You don't know. When you talk down on someone, whether it be to their face or behind their back, what is this accomplishing? Does this benefit anyone in any way? As women, we should be, "fixing each others crowns without letting the world know it was crooked". I am not a cliche person who uses quotes like this, but when you really think about it, this is a concept that shouldn't have to be an "Instagram worthy" caption... it should be instinct.
I wish there could be more respect and encouragement among sellers. I’ve meet some wonderful women during this journey. I know I don’t have any authority or power over anyone, of course, and I don't want anyone to think that I'm trying to look high and mighty by writing this. Ultimately, I just wanted to share my personal wish that we could all just be kind to one another.
*hops off soap box*